I’m in need of some advice. Please refrain from telling me what an idiot I am.
E and I have had a good relationship, for almost 4 months. He has been completely open and honest about dating others, including his roommate.
I told him from the beginning that I would not compete with her. That I was me and he could either date me or not.
Things have progressed fairly quickly. We have actually told each other that we loved each other and about a week ago, he told me that he was IN love with me.
I have also told him, numerous times, that I didn’t know how long I would be able to be in this situation. I didn’t know if it would be 5 days, 5 weeks or 5 months. I know at some point, it will be too much, but there is no way to tell when that might be.
Its always been hard for me, but right now, the good times outweigh the bad. By a fucking long shot. So I’ve been coping.
When I know he is with her, I leave him alone. I don’t text him and I don’t send him snapchats. As much it bothers me, I respect HIM enough to let him figure things out on his own. I believe that if we are meant to be together, he’ll see that and end things on his own.
Well, every time we are together, she blows up his phone. I mean blows it the fuck up. Texts, snapchats and phone calls. He doesn’t respond usually and doesn’t look at her snaps. He’s respectful like that. Last night, she was texting him after midnight. I got pissed. I told him that she should have enough respect for him, to let him be while he is with me.
She stalks my Facebook. She puts pictures of them together as her profile pic and then tags him, so I’ll see it.
Tonight, something happened that has my blood boiling, my muscles tight and it’s making me want to cry.
E and I have played Yahtzee together, several times. He has even played with my family. My mom and my kid. Tonight, she posted a picture of her, blowing on dice in his hand, and said something like ‘time for Yahtzee!’
And of course, she fucking tagged him in it.
I still will not compete with her.
I will not tag him in anything, because I do not want to cause problems.
But my feelings are hurt. He knows how I feel. He knows it hurts me. I know that he can’t control what she posts to Facebook, but he can control what she tags him in.
Ultimately, he cannot control her texts or when she contacts him, but he can ask her to respect him enough to not message him when she knows he’s here.
How do I handle this?
I will not give him an ultimatum. I won’t.
Do I walk away and hope he makes the right decision?
Do I hold on and let her dig her own grave?
Do I tell her she’s a fucking cunt?
I love this man. I’m falling in love with him. I cannot imagine my life without him in it right now, but I also don’t know how much more I can take.
She’s a 46 year old woman who has resorted to high school games on Facebook.
My heart is sad that he allows her to hurt me like this.
Makes me question all his feelings for me.
Makes me question if this can ever work.
Makes me question everything he has said about his situation.
Oh and to be fair and provide a necessary fact, I did text him when I saw the picture and told him ‘I hope you had a good time playing Yahtzee tonight’.
I guess that wasn’t very mature.
He didn’t respond. Logically, I know he’s sleeping because he has to work tomorrow. Emotionally, I think they are probably fucking.